“Keep your face towards the sunshine and you will not see the shadows.”
We come across plenty of situations from time to time in our lives that tend to throw us off track. That tend to depress us. That tend to slow us down and make us think. That tend to break our hearts. That tend to make us feel defeated. That tend to force us to break down and cry. Plenty. Every day.
But, life, is meant to be a rollercoaster ride, ain’t it? I mean, there are highs. There are lows. There is stability. There are moments of peace. Moments of joy. Moments of contemplation. Moments of exhilaration. Moments of sorrow. Moments of satisfaction. And nothing ever stays the same. Everything keeps changing, in some form, at some time.
So, why bow down for sympathy when grief hits us? Why let grief engulf our very being, our very existence? Every single soul goes through grief. Each has his own share of sorrow. Nobody is spared. But how we choose to deal with it makes us what we are, shapes us to who we want to become. The endless grumbling, complaining and lamenting ain’t going to take us anywhere. Being grumpy wouldn’t help us find a solution. The meaningless accusing and whining wouldn’t help us reach where we want to. But that is what most of us end up doing, everytime we find ourselves in an unpleasant situation.
Instead, let’s follow this.
Discuss. Debate. Decide. The 3 magic words that’ll help us reach a better solution than all the mumbling would. Discuss and debate, not digress. Learn how people figure their way out. Broaden our options. And deal with our distress in dignity, because, seeking sympathy doesn’t always help.
Let’s try and be the go-getter. Let’s be the energy. Let’s be the positivity that’ll help us cruise through the worst, successfully. Let’s muster the courage from our success to deal with our failures. Let’s learn to take things in our stride and march ahead.
Let’s be the sunshine we look forward to, in somebody else.
Everyday I look in the mirror, at my tiny eyes, my humongous nose, my over sized front teeth and I cry. And then, I reminisce. I think of all the wrong I’ve done, all the mistakes I’ve knowingly and unknowingly committed and I drown myself in remorse and resentment. This is a routine for me, everyday. Every single day. Sometimes minimal, but on days when I’m low, to an extent that I’m reduced to tears. I’d fake amazing strength and attitude on the outside, but inside I’d be broken and brittle. I’d go into a shell and stay incognito, just keeping to myself all day long. I’d keep interaction to zilch but peep out once in a while just to check if the world’s still intact.
I know there are so many others out there who go through the same emotions as mine. Who go into a state of depression and get all worked up. Who blame themselves for everything that goes wrong.
To all of you out there, and to myself too, here’s what I’d like to instill, strongly :
The ultimate truth is this.
Beyond everything else, you are God’s creation. Every bit of God’s creation is always beautiful. And God has always got a plan for you, for all of us. Something good, like light at the end of a dark tunnel.
There’s no damage in this world that’s irreparable. Spare yourself that resentment and see what you can do to set things right. There’s nothing in this world that can’t be cured, only realise what’s wrong in time. Every bad experience has taught you something you’d remember for life, has made you stronger and has helped you emerge a better person.
And, there’s no one in this world that’s perfect. Perfection is overrated, exaggerated. Perfection is fiction. Imperfection is beautiful, plausible. Imperfection is real. Imperfection is what makes us human. So learn to love yourself with your flaws, with your loss, with your past. Just remember to ditch that baggage you keep carrying in your head.
Love yourself for who you are, for who you have been, for who you will be. There’s absolutely no one like you. You are every bit special with your flaws, incredible in ways you can’t even manifest. Be the best version of you, always, be your first priority when you need to be and love who you are, with your imperfections, unabashedly.
Your insecurities, your fears,
Your secrets, your lies,
Your failings, your flaws,
Your misgivings, your loss,
Your goodness, your truth,
Your happiness, your faith,
Your trust, your hope,
Your love, your ability to cope…
Each day, be the best version of you,
Make your every dream come true!
Hang in there a bit more…
When nothing works your way,
And you can’t keep trouble at bay,
Unfazed by opinions and shadows grey,
Let, on your face, the smile play,
With your confidence, slay,
Trust your instincts to save the day,
For the best, hope and pray,
Whatever happens, never give up, just stay!
I, very often, come across people who describe what they love, with a term that’s undeniably negative – a drug.
The fact that you love something, probably a piece of music or art, means, it brings you immense happiness. And you just cannot describe something that positive, with such a negative term.
The fact that you are alive to enjoy, appreciate and rejoice a beautiful creation is a blessing, not a curse – for it to be called a drug.
Something that has the goodness of an elixir cannot definitely be as incomprehensible as a drug.
A series I’m starting, to bring around positivity, love and hope in my own small way by sharing good, real incidents I chance to be part of, in my daily life. Just to spread the word that humanity is still alive. Titling them ‘Moments’, because they are really moments to cherish, rejoice and celebrate. Moments to recollect and remember. Moments with no message and moral. Moments that are simply valuable moments.
And they’d be handwritten because I believe handwritten notes carry so much warmth and belonging in them. Also because I’ve been wanting to write for so long and this is my chance to begin.
So trusting and warm and real. I don’t know if the kids know each other, but I could really see the willingness to help, trust and belong.
P.S. I know, I know I need to work on my handwriting :p
Like every other year, 2016 also has had its ups and downs, but what’s going to make things better is the fact that we are going to focus plainly on what’s been good this year and take it forward to the next.
I am sharing here a few memorable events of mine, of 2016 with the hope to double the joy in the coming year and to cherish what I have, forever.
- I met a few of my idols this year – people who I look up to, and derive inspiration from. 💖
- I got around to co-authoring a book with the amazing Mr. Shashi Tharoor with a few other creative people.💝
- I completed 2 whole years at work 💃
- I published my poetry. (Yayayayayyyyy!!) You can buy my books here – on Amazon and pothi.com
That pretty much sums up the best things that happened to me this year.
And here’s wishing all of us lots of hope, sunshine, happiness and success in the coming year.
Let’s look forward to a new 2017, to good will, to beautiful moments and to positivity.
Cheers to a new beginning!