Satiating Saturdays – Why do we always need someone to approve of us and everything we do?

I begin today, my weekly blogpost – Satiating Saturdays, where each Saturday I’d be sharing my musings on relationships, productivity, life – bits and pieces, thoughts and tidbits that’ll help clear that concussed space in our heads.

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Throwback to the time when we were at school and wanted to be the teacher’s pet. Throwback to the time when every time we had a sibling rivalry we wanted to show down our brother/sister and get the “good-child” tag.  A big throwback to the time when we were kids.

Now, back to the present, when we are all up on our feet trying to find our destinies, but, with the habit that seems to have grown on us, we seem to need someone to always impress, to approve of what we do, the way we do.

That is exactly where the problem lies. We always seem to want the approval of people to authorize what we do, and their approval becomes the foundation of our destinies, of our journeys, of our lives. And, when sometimes we don’t get that someone’s approval, or when a particular someone doesn’t find us impressive, we begin to doubt our abilities, we begin to back track. We begin to feel inferior and under confident. We begin to develop a complex and become unsteady. We don’t find the feet, strength, and the courage to move forward. We begin to be stuck in our own cloud of uncertainties.

Which is one of those million important times when we have to learn to listen to our heart. One of those million important times when we have to burst that bubble of insecurity we live in and put our best foot forward. One of those million important times when we have to shake away our fears and march forward. One of those million times when we have to learn to trust our instincts. One of those million important times, when we have to learn to believe in ourselves.

It doesn’t matter if we are weird, crazy or silly.

It doesn’t matter if we don’t follow the clichéd ways.

It doesn’t matter if we are/choose to be different.

It doesn’t matter if we aren’t approved by many.

It really doesn’t.

What matters is the choice we make, the path we choose, to reach where we want to.

Because, at the end of the day, it’ll be just us, battling for what we want. And, we wouldn’t want any regrets then.

Cheers!

Author: Annapurani Vaidyanathan

I hoard books for a living. And read them too, when I am not sleeping. I express what I think, so my unheard feelings don't sink. I like to sing when I walk, to keep shades grey, at bay. I speak like a dork, but I don't want to drive anyone away. I write what's real, and nothing fake, so visit my blog whenever you need a break ;)

15 thoughts on “Satiating Saturdays – Why do we always need someone to approve of us and everything we do?”

  1. Agree with you Annapurani! We always want to be in the good books of others. Maybe we are not able to shake off this childhood habit of ours, always wanting to impress. So we continue with it, in spite of knowing that it stifles our growth!

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  2. I totally agree with you that we are always trying to be the good person in everybody’s eyes but you know sometimes we are actually heading in the wrong direction ,in those times we need somebody to provide a reflection. Not that we should believe everything but at least stop for a moment and if needed correct yourself.

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